What’s the heroine’s journey and will you answer the call when it comes?

What do furniture, circuit boards and bargains have in common?

How do you get a divorce that isn’t a disaster? Or how can you avoid one by asking for what you want? That’s the topic I dig into with Sally Anne Hartnel

Do you ever find yourself holding back a little on the real, full YOU experience because you don’t think you’re acceptable?

We are pack animals and we signify to each other who we belong to and who we don’t. It can be as simple as Not being able to wear Hi Tec trainers at school because the cool kids wear Nike.

There’s a theory that back in our hunter gatherer days, it was more important for women to be secure in a group or we’d risk getting fed to a passing bear. Could this explain why we sometimes feel like we are waiting for permission to do the things we know we want to try?

You have a unique energy and vibe. You are a full expression of one particular flavour of human that can never be repeated - so why are we all trying so hard to blend in? I talked to a woman who couldn’t blend in if she tried and she has no intention of trying.

Maybe you don’t like your body because you’ve been trained not to. Maybe living in a world that has been obsessed with thin meaning worthy for over a hundred years has had some impact on how you feel inside your own skin.

The hard message about fat for hundreds of years in the west is that if you have it you're lazy, uneducated, slow, greedy, and attractive.

If you’ve ever been showered with useless platitudes when you’re going through some heavy sh*t, or felt like no one wanted to hear your story in case you “dragged them down” you’ve been spiritually bypassed. And that sucks.

One of the questions I get asked most by clients is, “How do I get in touch with my intuition?”

Are you a sidekick in your own life?

Why are you doing what you’re doing? Did the idea come from you, or are you living someone else’s story?

A role model is someone who’s behaviour you want to imitate. As women, it feels like we already have enough role models shoved at us from every angle. The pressure to be the perfect partner, perfectly groomed - or perfectly tousled - perfectly carefree, or perfectly disciplined. You choose it, there’s a perfect version of it we’re meant to be.

Being a woman is enough to cope with, but how many women in my life are coping with this extra layer of guilt, shame and pressure?

Good girls are taught to stuff our anger all the way down into our white cotton socks and pretend we’re immune to such a nasty feeling.

Perimenopause can come with a massive side helping of shame. Suddenly I went from a vibrant, youngish woman who relied on my wits to being an old, dried up, rapidly aging shell who couldn’t remember where I kept the toothpaste. And I couldn’t stop crying for no reason.

Do you ever curse at yourself, “Why am I doing this AGAIN?! What is WRONG with me? Why can’t I just stick up for myself?!”

Learning to be okay with having wealth is a huge part of learning to love and accept our own needs and desires.

Is your money a reflection of how you feel about yourself?